Forward: As a male adult I want to tell you about my experience growing up wearing diapers. To this day, I wear 24/7. I’m telling this from a male point of view and it’s not my intention to leave out the female population, as I can’t give any advise to women, for many reasons, but I believe that guys can hide that they wear diapers a lot easier then females, simply because women wear skimpier outfits. Baggy cargo pants are a perfect item to wear over disposable diapers. Please check out my other article on this subject primary dealing with the types of diapers titled… “Incontinence and Diapers”. This article is about the types of diapers acquirable to men and my take on wearing diapers. This article is also gives you advise and how to go about your regular life with this humiliating condition.
Childhood: My story begins in the mid 60′s. Because of a automobile happening when I was 5 years old, I suffered from a bladder injury, which if this happening would have happened a decade or two later, my injury wouldn’t have resulted in myself in having to wear diapers. In 1966, surgery wasn’t an option for my parents. The ideal that they could hope for was for my body to heal naturally… unfortunately this wasn’t to happen. I do not blame my parents for any demand of medical treatments, so I take what was given to me and live life to the fullest. Disposable diapers weren’t even an option as a child for me. Sure Pampers were around back then, but not for a five year old let alone an older child, teen or adult. Had disposable diapers been acquirable to kids like myself, my life would have been a lot easier during my grade school years. I started the first grade having to wear cloth diapers and plastic pants underneath my school clothes… not only cloth diapers, but the ones that had to be pinned on by diaper pins. Try hiding this as a kid… not easy. My mom (bless her soul) tried her hardest to ensure that my diapers were conceal underneath my pants, but it was the bulk of the diapers that gave it away that I was diapered…or even worse when the top of my plastic pants would sneak over the top of my pants from time to time… that was not cool when your five and six years old. At this time of my life in grade school, I had to go to the school nurse to have my diapers changed… quite humiliating when you’re five, six and seven years old. Most of my classamates really couldn’t comprehend why I had to wear diapers…they teased me…for something I couldn’t control.
My childhood was quite pleasant for the most part. My parents ensured that I did everything that other kids would experience.. I was in the cub scouts, boy scouts or whatever… but they only thing I had to last was that I needed to wear diapers. If you were ever a cub scout or even a boy scout.. there would be no way you could hide any type of absorbent underwear (such as StayDry Pants) or diapers underneath those scout pants and of course it was no different for me. My mom tried having me wear thinner diapers during those scout activities…but it was still quite obvious that I was diapered. Don’t get me wrong… I enjoyed my childhood, had a great time, but it was still humiliating having to wear something usually only babies wore.
By the time I reached the 6th grade, I was healthy to change my own cloth diapers in the nurse’s office, but it was still humiliating having to go in there and change my diaper. My supplies were kept in a supply closet, whereas I had the privacy I needed to change them… but from time to time, I relied on the school nurse to help me change. I know that it was probably something that shouldn’t have happened, but my parents were supportive of me and the school didn’t have an issue with this…an no, I was not in Special Ed.
My Teen Years: When I entered junior high and high school… I was with the same group of kids that pretty much accepted my plight. Cloth diapers were still my choice of underwear, so should I state my parents choice. I did get to wear those StayDry pants to school, but since I normally wet myself several times during the daytime, cloth diapers were pretty much a staple in my life. If you don’t know what StayDry pants were, back in the 60′s and primeval 70′s, it was snap-on or tie type of a vinyl-covered cloth diaper…much thinner than your basic cloth diaper. Disposables weren’t on the market yet, except for a brand called “Ambeze“. This disposable diaper was basically a thin, flat-fold type of garment. This of course didn’t hold up to any of my wettings and leaked horrible. I still had to rely on my basic cloth diapers and teen-sized plastic pants. The plastic pants that I wore at this time, were prefabricated by a company that produced the Gerber Company which produced, baby pants, but for older kids and teens… but the size didn’t matter..mine still resembled regular baby pants…so if my plastic pants became visible…It was obvious that I didn’t wear regular underwear… but plastic pants. I tried to hide my diapers underneath my pants, but like in primeval years… I think that it was obvious what I wore underneath my pants. Sure I still was teased over something that I could not control.
When I was in the 8th grade, I broke my arm and had my arm and hand in a cast up to my shoulder. This of course had some complications, especially when it came to changing my diaper. Since I had trouble now doing this, I had the embarassment of relying on others to help me. My parents assisted me when I was home from school and of course at night, but during school, I had to go to the school nurse to have my diapers changed. Can you envision being 13 years old and having your diapers changed by someone else other than your parents…quite embarrassing!
High school wasn’t a treat either. I remember that the guys in my gym class would tease other guys for wearing boxer shorts. In those days… only farmers wore boxer shorts, at least in the part of the country where I lived, so can you imagine… with me trying to change out of my clothes, trying to hide the fact that I was diapered… so for the guys that didn’t know about my condition… boy where they surprised to see a 14 year old wearing diapers to high school. I still had to wear cloth diapers and plastic pants all throughout high school. Like my primeval years, I did enjoy my high school years. I tried not to let it get to me… just because I still wore diapers. I went to the Junior prom and I believe in the history of my class.. I probably was the first guy to attend his prom with diapers underneath my tux. I think my date was more curious that someone her age would have to wear something like this… of course sex was the farthest from my mind…unlike the other guys in my class… mainly because I still wore diapers. When I graduated high school… just like prom, I probably was the first guy in the history of my class to wear diapers underneath that gown.
College Years: Sometime in the primeval 80′s, Kimberly Clark and Proctor and Gamble introduced the first real adult disposable diaper to the public. Depends and Attends fitted briefs were a god-send for many children, teens and adults alike that might have relied on using cloth type diapers. This was no exception for myself. I could go from shedding my cloth diapers and plastic pants and switching to a disposable product. You might notice that throughout this article and the other one that I had written, I use the term ‘diaper’ over the term ‘adult disposable fitted briefs’. In my mind…if the product absorbs and protects like a diaper, then it’s a diaper. Also the term diaper is a lot shorter to state than ‘adult disposable fitted briefs’. I’m not ashamed that I wear diapers, so that’s why I call them as such. When these companies introduced their products, The Depends had a greenish color to them, whereas the Attends were basic white. I really didn’t care for the greenish diaper, as if anyone happen to notice these… it was obvious that I wasn’t wearing regular cotton underwear like you’d see a guy my age wear, but if I wore the Attends diapers, the plain white ones, it would have been easier to hide them because of the color. The thing though I didn’t like about the Attends diapers was the inner mesh lining. It was prefabricated from a different material and it stuck to your skin and in my mind was uncomfortable to wear…so even though I would have preferred the Attends diapers, I wore the greenish Depends diapers. Currently those these products have changed over the years and both are a basic white in color and the Attends diapers now no longer have that style of an inner mesh lining and I’ve gone back to wearing the Attends diapers over the Depends diapers.
The trade off with the introduction of the adult disposable diaper is the increased crinkling sound from the outer plastic cover. At this time period, cloth-backed disposable products haven’t prefabricated it to the market. To tell you the truth about these now acquirable cloth-back products, I really don’t care for them. They tend to leak on me. Since the plastic material is concentrated primary with then center of the product, there is no endorsement on the sides of the diaper and even over the adult pull-ups. So with that in mind… I buy the plastic style diapers. You can miminize the crinkling sound from your diaper by wearing a pair of boxer briefs or any other cotton underwear over the diaper.
Now that I was in college, my life actually improved over my high school years. I no longer had to wear cloth diapers and plastic pants during the daytime. Sure I would still for some time rely on cloth diapers and plastic pants at night, as since I’m a heavy wetter, most disposable products in the 80′s wasn’t completely designed for overnight use. From my experiences in college… I don’t think any of my classmates other than my roommates knew about my condition or that I had to wear diapers. It’s doable that they might have heard the crinkling sound when I sat up or down, but I’m probably sure that they would have never thought of someone my age having to wear diapers to college. During college, most of us experience the drinking parties. In order to keep myself dry on the outside during these social drinking events, I sometimes wore my night cloth diapers and plastic pants to contain the extra urine output, but I also wore baggier pants or even wore a college sweat shirt that hung over my pants to hide that I was diapered underneath. My drinking buddies just though it was funny that I had to resort in having to wear these bulky diapers… but they also knew that I needed them without the worries of trying to change my diaper…which isn’t really an option at a college party.
After College and the Workforce: After graduation, I entered the workforce as a manager of a retail group. I continued in wearing the Attends disposable diapers underneath my dress slacks and I really never had an issue with wearing diapers to work. I did have a situation where a co-worker walked in the restroom while I was changing my diaper, hearing the tapes being undone, the crinkling sound and even carrying out the wet one…gave it away to my co-worker that I wore diapers. Being adults, there was no-teasing, but I did have to explain why I was wearing a diaper. Since then I do have my own office and can change in private. If you do not have the luxury of a private office, try to change your diaper in a single-use restroom or if you know when the restroom is empty for a period of time. Carry your spare diapers in some type of stylish shoulder bag or even a plain paper grocery bag, so all you have to do is throw away the entire package. If you must, discreetly inform your co-workers, bosses or who ever you might need to tell about your condition and your need for diapers. Remember that you can’t be fired just because you wear diapers. I tended to wear boxer briefs over my diapers to conceal them and help with the somewhat crinkling sound that might have omitted from wearing them. Another tip in reducing the crinkling sound is to wear your diapers more snug or taping them up more tighter. From experience, loosier fitting diapers increases the crinkling sound.
Current situation: My choice of disposable diapers is that of the Attends and the Secure Plus and the Secure X-Plus disposable diapers. The Attends have an comfortable elastic waistband, three tape tabs for a better fit and a comfortable inner-lining. These diapers though over the years have become thinner and alittle less absorbent over their previous ones. Luckily for me, I can buy my Attends locally, but you can find them online throughtout the Unted States. These diapers are a great daytime diaper, but at night, I’ve found them to demand in the that department. I will explain abit further in this article on how to increase the absorbency rate to miminize leakage at night or even during the daytime.
My preferred choice of a diaper is that of the Secure Plus and the Secure X-Plus disposable diapers. The Secure Plus is a great daytime diaper and has an excellent taping regularize on the front of the diaper. This makes changing diapers, re-adjusting your diaper, if need be, to be a lot easier. These diapers do not have an elastic waistband, but for daytime, this isn’t an issue. The Secure X-Plus diaper is a better nightime diaper. These diapers have an elastic waistband that is needed throughout the night and is comfortable to wear. They are alittle more bulkier than the daytime verison, but if you are wearing them at night… does it matter. I have from time to time wear the Secure X-Plus during the daytime…mainly when I need the extra protection, such as traveling by plane or long automobile rides and or going to the movies, plays and sporting events. Wear a bagger style of cargo pants to refrain the mistaken bulk of a diaper, leaving your shirt un-tucked also hides the doable bulk of the diaper. You can order these Secure Plus and Secure X-Plus diapers by calling Secure Products at 866-440-0049.
I’ve also found a diaper booster pad acquirable at Wal-Mart in the adult incontinence aisle. The booster pads are from the Depend people.They come in 20 per package. These booster pads increase the absorbency rate of any diaper and they do not have any type of plastic what so ever. They have an sticky side that adheres to the inside of your diaper. They are great with any daytime diaper to decrease the number of changes needed throughout the day. When added to your nighttime diaper, such as the Secure X-Plus, this will increase the absorbency for all night endorsement and will increase it enough if you decide to sleep in the morning, without the hassles of changing your diaper first thing in the morning.
There is also many other types of disposable diapers on the market, including store brands. Other great name-brand are… Abri-Form, Delta Forms and or Abena disposable diapers are acquirable online and you’ll have to work with what’s ideal for you. I tend to shy away from the store-brands, as in my mind are uncomforable and tend to leak… but that’s my opinion.
Traveling in diapers: I’ve found that I like to use the Secure X-Plus when I travel. It miminizes changes during the trip, either it be by automobile or plane. I carry a Eddie Bauer shoulder bag. This bag will hold two additional Secure X-Plus diapers for changes during the trip. They are stylish and people will not question when you carry this with you. Changing your diaper at travel stations or even at a McDonald’s is fast and easy. Carry a small wet-wipe inside your travel pack to help with the clean up of any urine odor. Traveling by plane is another story. I still wear my Secure X-Plus, but I also add a booster pad to help miminize diaper changes at the airfield or even on the plane itself. When going through the security checkpoint, any carry on-bag wll be searched and my Eddie Bauer bag is no exception. Airline security have seen it all…so don’t be humiliated when they see your spare diapers. Now since the 2009 Christmas Day underwear bomber in Detroit, I’m sure that body searches or pad-downs have increased. I’m planning on traveling by plane in March of 2010, so I am curious to learn when they discover that I’m wearing diapers. I don’t think they’ll think twice of it… but you don’t know. I’ve had some issues in the past where I had to strip down to my underwear, but in my case my underwear was a diaper, a curse no matter how you look at it. They didn’t state anything about my choice of underwear and to this day, I never found out why I set off those security alarms. I’ve traveled wearing my basic cloth diaper and plastic pants once and I’ll never do it again. First of all… once you’re wet…you know your wet. Second you have to deal with the wet diapers, placing them in a plastic bag to take with you, whereas in a disposable diaper…all you have to do is throw them away. Yes, I know that throwing disposable diapers are not that enviromentally sound.. but you try wearing diapers all the time and tell me how to deal with it. The third issue with cloth diapers, mainly if you use the pin on style, some airfield sensors might pick up the diaper pin… which could mean,you’ll have to show them to the TSA.. Another humiliating moment in traveling.
Outdoor activites: Summer time for me and other guys are probably are the hardest time to wear diapers. The warmer weather makes wearing diapers alittle more warmer and can get alittle uncomfortable. If you like to take off your shirt, it could be doable the top of your disposable diaper might become visible. But with careful planning, such was wearing boxer briefs, boxers or even those sports briefs will camouflage your diaper. Swimming is a whole other story. If you deal with just urinary incontinence, you won’t need to wear a swim diaper. These type of re-useable diapers are just to deal with bowel incontinence. I know that some people are mortified to learn that many of us don’t have to choice and will relieve themselves within the water of the pool or water park. Don’t worry…pool operators deal with this in the chemical treatments. When I change out of my clothes in the men’s locker room in a pool or waterpark, I swiftly undress, un-tape my wet diaper, swiftly place on my swim trunks and roll-up the diaper inside it’s own plastic backsheet and throw it away. I’ve sheldom had any remarks when others noticed that I was diapered. Changing back into a diaper after your swim or when you’re done in the waterpark is abit different. I dry off, take a clean dry diaper out, taping it on as swiftly as possible, not looking at anyone. For the most part, if you don’t make changing your diaper a huge deal…others won’t as well. I’ve attended numerous amusement parks during the summer and I’ve basically worn an Secure X-Plus during the daytime, but you can go out to your automobile to change your diaper, but I like having a more absorbent diaper on, to enjoy the day without additional diaper changes…of course I still need a change, usually about half way through the day…but at least I’m not changing diapers more than once. You’ll find that doing your outdoor actiivities is no different than any other guy… with the exception that you’ll need to wear a diaper. Don’t let it bother you and if your diaper tends to stick out from your shorts or become exposed, don’t sweat it… but on the other hand, don’t advertise that you wear them them either. Be careful on choosing your shorts for the summer and wear a belt.. this will help keep your diapers safely inside your shorts.
Going to the gym in diapers: I belong to the ‘Y’ in my local community. I like other adult guys, like to keep fit. You just have to adjust your gym clothes to accommodate your diapers. Like myself, you probably can’t go to the gym without the aid of a diaper. Like anything else, I don’t let it bother me that I have to wear diapers and going to the gym isn’t an exception. I go to the gym after work, with my gym bag in tow, changing out of my dress clothes, all in view of other guys.. but it’s not like they are looking at you…they are just trying to change swiftly themselves to exercise and use the machines. Sure I’ve had other guys look at me when they see that I have a disposable diaper on… but usually nothing is said. My individualized trainer is aware of my condition and my need for diapers. I know he’s heard the crinkling sound, but nothing is stated about it. I wear a longer pair of shorts, mainly cotton to miminize the crinkling sound over nylon shorts and if you wear a shorter-style gym, shorts, your diaper might be visible from the leg openings of shorts. After my workout, I like other guys shower. I swiftly undress and take my shower. Afterwards, I try to tape up a dry diaper on and finish dressing. I how I’ve got some looks when I tape up a diaper over just putting on a pair of boxer briefs… but it’s not like I have a choice. You can decide to wear those Adult Pull-ups, miminizing the effects of a diaper change, but I do not like this type of endorsement as they tend to leak on me. Don’t let wearing diapers hinder your outdoor or gym activities just because you wear diapers. Embrace it!
Nightime: Nighttime might have it’s different challenges over the daytime. For one reason, would be that you could be sleeping 6 to 8 hours or more verses when you’re awake… you can change yourself when ever you need too… but at night, you might have to wear a diaper that is designed to complete with sleeping. My choice of a overnight diaper is that of the Secure X-Plus with an added Depend booster pad for all night dryness. These diapers will keep me dry all night long..all without worrying about changing diapers in the middle of the night. I’ve also found that by adding clear duct tape over the tape tabs of your diaper will ensure that your diaper doesn’t come un-done while sleeping…something you don’t want to deal with when sleeping, especially when you’re a side sleeper causing some wet spots or when the diaper gets all loose. From time to time, I will wear my thicker cloth diapers and plastic pants to bed, but it’s becoming less and less apiece year. I like the disposability of a disposable diaper, whereas if you wear cloth, you have to deal with washing and cleaning your diapers. If you don’t wash your cloth diapers apiece day, you’ll have to invest in a diaper pail with a secure lid to refrain that unsightly urine smell… which is another reason why I stick to disposables. Another hint when wearing diapers, either daytime or nighttime is to buy those disposable diaper sacks. I buy mine at Wal-Mart. They are called ‘Sassy diaper sacks‘ and are acquirable in the baby aisle. They come with 50 diaper sacks per package. They have a baby powder smell, which will mask the odor of your wet disposable diaper. Sure it might be somewhat humiliating going to the baby section of the store to buy your supplies, but even pet owners use these as well. You’ll also find that buying your diaper sacks, wet wipes and even baby powder and or diaper rash cream is cheaper than buying them in the adult section. They are the same product, but usually sold for parents with babies… but after all diapers and diaper supplies are all the same…just located in a different part of the store and usually the adult supplies cost you more.
Most men either wear just their boxer briefs to bed with nothing else and I am no different. I just wear my diaper to bed with nothing covering them up. No one outside your partner wlll ever see you just in your diapers, so why cover them up and anyways… just wearing a diaper to bed is more comfortable. Of course prior to bedtime, I’ll wear my lounge pants over my diapers…after all I don’t want to expose that I’m diapered. Some men will wear nothing to bed… but for us, we don’t have that luxury… I need to wear a diaper to bed and there is no way of getting around that… for the most part. The reason I state for the most part is that once in a while, I will get angry at myself in having to wear diapers each night, after all I’m only human… so about once each few months or so, I’ll forgo the diaper and just sleep commando. How do I protect my mattress…simple. I buy Pampers Bedmates or a disposable conserving mattress pad They are somewhat like a flat-fold diaper that you lie on. You can buy these online or even sometimes you can find them at Wal-Mart or your local supermarket. You might have to deal with washing the sheets or blankets, but it is a occasional change in wearing diapers to bed… of course if you sleep with someone else in your bed, you might want to reconsider this option.
In closing: Wearing diapers isn’t the end of the world…it just means that you need to wear a different type of underwear. Just because you have to wear diapers doesn’t mean that you’re any less of a man that doesn’t have to wear them. His boxer briefs and or boxers are his choice of underwear, whereas your choice of underwear happens to be a disposable diaper. Embrace your differences, don’t let something as easy as wearing diapers keep you from doing the things you love. Embrace your life… Embrace the ones that you love…Live life to the fullest! Diapers for the rest of us !
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